Just kind of wondering, lets say your husbands actually improved and became romantic, thoughtful, caring guys. Then how would you ladies actually change into HD women? Not trying to be nasty, just curious as to what YOUR gameplan to change YOU is looking like. I know that for me, the HD guy, it is VERY hard to get motivated anymore to do anything nice for my wife, since she continues to be LD no matter what I do. In order for a marriage top work, the needs of both spouses must eventually be met at the same time. It almost seems to me that many LD women basically dismiss sex as not really being a necessary part of a great marriage.
What is your definition of HD? In my case we are ML once every three months or so.....what if we increase it to once a week? Would I then be defined as HD? What if we only had sex once a month but it was an all day thing? See that's the challenge....what is the definition of HD and LD? What if I desired my H more but we still didn't ML as much as he wanted am I still considered LD?
My H and I are at the beginning of this discovery. My plan is to keep talking and defining each of our needs. There are going to be moments like last few night where we both feel like we are beating our heads against a wall but I don't want to give up.
