When I spoke with H last night after work I told him that by making that comment I felt like I wasn't worth doing anything special for unless he thought he was going to get sex. I also let him know that I was disappointed because we had had a very productive discussion about what we each needed to do to make our R work better and thus our sex life improve.
He told me that he didn't think it unfair that if he goes out of his way to do something for me that I not do the same in return. He said that "you are into cards and flowers, I don't give a damn about that stuff. In fact I usually don't think much about it. What I care about is sex AND because you don't seem to clue into when I expect it I've decided to tell you. Then you can't play ignorant. I'm tired of all the talking. Why can't we just have a normal marriage?"
I asked him what he thought a normal marriage was and he said one where he got regular sex and he didn't have to bend over backwards to get it. I should just have sex with him on a regular basis because that's what you do in a marriage.
Needless to say, I feel like we just went backwards.
