It is more about making our Hs wonder about us for a change. It lets them know our focus isn't completely on them anymore but on us. That we are moving on with our life and we do not need them to move on. (yes we want them but don't need them- there is a difference). That gets their attention.
If we appear to be moving on that may make them notice and send them looking our way. You are showing that you are no longer chasing him (that really pushes them away). It may also make them realize hey, I may be losing my W. If they really wanted out of the M, then they would not still be here. They are confused. The goal is to make ourselves more attractive, mysterious to our spouses. That will take the attention off ow. They start wondering about us because we are changing. The things that made them turn to the ow are not there anymore. They start to question their decision. They notice us.
I don't believe for a minute my H thinks I am with another man. But, he is asking where I have been. Why would he do that if he wasn't somewhat concerned. If his focus was completely on ow then he wouldn't care where I was but glad that I wasn't home, so why ask?????
I don't know if that helped. But for some reason when we stop chasing and GAL, move on and detach, it gets their attention.
