You may be right NY. I haven't looked at it like that. There may be some baby steps and actions I have missed because they are just that, baby steps.
I am still not sure what I am going to do at this point. I know ultimatums are not good but I am not sure I want to keep living like this either.
Spring break and summer (esp. summer) when we both have time off really worries me. I can't expect him to stay home all the time but I don't think I will be able to trust him if he still has contact with ow. I can't live all summer that way. This whole thing began in the summer. So.. I have some serious thinking to do between now and then.
