Thanks Gboat and Sun,

Sounds like we are doing alot of thinking about our sitches and whether to stay or let our spouses go. Yeah the having your cake and eating it really bothers me too. That is what is at the heart of my indecision right now.

This is just so confusing.

Today for instance, H calls on his way home and actually wants to talk. This rarely happens anymore. If he calls or I do, the convos are very short and to the point. He actually asked about me and something going on with me. I talked to my principal about transferring today. I was really nervous about talking to her. He asked, I did not bring it up. Then after telling him about that he preceded to tell me about something that happened to him at work. This is usually when he talks to ow on the way home from work. I am not going to believe he didn't talk to her. I am just surprised he talked to me for so long and thought to ask about my problem. He also asked where I was, I did not ask him where he was or when he would be home. I just said I am fixing ... for dinner, do you want some? He said yes.

I have a terrible headache and he actually seems concerned.

I am going to keep detaching and GAL and keep considering what to do.

Sherry