I think alot like you too...I wonder each day if I should ask H to leave or just leave things be....My sitch just never seems to get any better. In the summer before I knew about DB I was already doing an act as if, we had a great summer, but OW loomed in the shadows because I saw all the phone bills and the contact NEVER stopped. But in terms of splitting up the dishes...Hell no. He is the one who doesnt want the life you two have built together, he walks away empty handed. That is the way I see it. Everything that goes with our life stays put, you leave if you dont want what we have to offer. I also think like you, H likes that I go to the gym because then he doesnt have to sneak out to make his phone calls. But whatever. I am going to do what I want, and you are too. Just see how the days pan out.
You are doing a good job and are going to have days just like me where you question everything. When you are ready (just like me) you will know.
