Hey Sherry,
I see others are saying what I have been thinking about you.

I would not allow my other to date while married to me. I know it will be hard, but in or out you must know.

I have been reading your sitch for what 2 months..and it was not new then.I think you have been living with this for a while....

Being in limbo, is very hard.
What is the old saying,@@@@ or get off the pot.
As for my own sitch, I do know where the boundaries are, ( Don't like it)( Don't always follow, but I do know what they are.
Have you dated? I'm too far away, But it is 15 deg. C today.( about 60 F) Very nice flowers coming up, still 7 feet snow on mountain, you ski? Have some fun will ya.

I will update my sitch sometime this weekend, I have the kids and they are sick.

Be strong for you and your kids.

Rusty