well Sherry, on the one hand, I HATE it that he gets his cake and eat it too, but on the other hand, every minute he is still THERE is another chance you get to save your M, if that is what you want. If you are DB-ing, and doing it for you, that is great. I truly believe that everyone has this imaginary "line", and once it is crossed, you will have no trouble detaching, or detaching him from your home, if need be! At this point his EA is a big draw. Sometimes I think EA's are worse than just the PA. EA's pull at the emotions, thats what makes your head get messed up. The emotions tell you we're in love, when its really just an overblown crush, or they are in rescue mode, or its the work bond, whatever.You need to keep getting a life for you. Sometimes , if the spouse sees that what they are doing is allowing YOU to possibly get a better life, it takes the wind out of their A, and if they still love you, they will start to worry that you are moving on right in front of them!
