Sherry, keep focusing on the positives. I had not and I kept sprialing down. And when you feel like you are spiraling..Take a breath.Stop..Detach..And move on.
I had so many positives until the end of Jan. Then H came home for a week..Then we went back to flipflopping with nasty comments and hugging each other. It has been a roller coaster.
The best reaction is no reaction. Sounds like you are providing a haven for H..Keep up the good work..
It WILL get better..It is a pattern..We all backslide. But the recovery from that is the most important part.
