Okay, so H is playing drums. I hear a loud noise. He comes out in a minute. I ask what was that, he said, don't worry about it. I dropped it ( 180-don't usually let things go)and went back to what I was doing.

A few minutes later, he comes back did you tuck S(9) in. I say no. He walks away in a huff and tucks him in. ( I wanted to say welcome to my world- but didn't--LOL).

He made himself a drink then went outside. I left him alone. Normally I would have stuck my head out and said what's wrong. So big 180 for me. I just ignored him. And you know what it wasn't that hard. Before I would have been panicking, is he out there calling ow. Tonight just did not care , knew I couldn't stop him and if I did it would push him away and make him mad at me. Trying to control me, not him.

Hmmmm, maybe it is the exercise.
Gotta go clean up the kitchen.

Sherry