I used to say stuff to H like do you think you could not call OW today too? And he would always respond with I wont, but you know what he always did anyway. So just so you dont get upset, he probably did, but like you said you cant control him, just you and your reaction. So you are thinking on the right track with that.
I hear you about going to the gym. I still feel a little uncomfortable just because I think people are looking at me and saying "She didnt stay on that machine long enough" but other than that, I just think to myself, I am going to be rewarded in the end with a slimmer body and hopefully a bikini this summer...LOL
You are doing very well, and I know how it feels to have H home and still doing what he is doing. Mine wont be home for long, and I am still torn as to what really needs to be done to fix this, but every sitch is different. For Crushed it worked out for her that they never moved out. For me I think it will work for me that he does. Keep doing for you...Keep going to the gym. I am going tonight... Talk later. Sun
