Oh this sounds all too familiar. My H would not give up talking to OW either. He kept saying "If I wanted to I could stop talking to her, I am just not happy, dont know what I want blah blah blah". It is unfortunate right now that our H's see the past as being bad, when I am sure that is not how it was at all. If it was you wouldnt have been together as long as you have. You do have a big decision to make when it comes to moving. If you were to move it could shake things up with H and make him say OH MY GOD, but I am not advising you to do that, because I know that I could not do it myself. That has to come from within yourself. No one here can tell you what you need to do on that one. Let me ask you this, if you were to move, do you see it ever being reconciled with H? If that is still a possibility that things could be fixed after a move. I dont know, again, only you could answer that one. I am sorry I am not being of much help, but when y ou are on the fence like that (kind of how our H's are) it is a tough choice. Let me say this, my H NEVER gave up OW during all of this, and he is with her right now on his little vacation. He seems to have been able to stop talking to me through this, which I never thought was possible. We have always maintained contact through it all...But that doesnt mean that all hope is lost on my sitch. I still see things could turn around once he comes home and sees that life is not vacation, and money wont be there for him to live that kind of lifestyle. But enough about me....Think about what you have to do for you here...Write out a list of the pros and cons of both decisions, lets see where that takes you. Maybe by doing that, it could shed some light on things that you are not seeing right at this moment because you are so upset about the sitch at hand today... I will check back with you later OK...Just thinking of you. Sun
