You can do this. You are making good progress... I can see it. Just remember that you can be strong because of who you are and your beliefs. Acknowledge that and you will become stronger yet.
Just as it is natural for you to want to bring up R talk it is just as natural for H (in his current shape) to recoil from it and say hurtful things. Stay out of his drama best you can. I think I have been able to minimize damage from the R talks because I am able to keep them infrequent. But I have to say they don't move us forward since the W has the wheel and I dont.
