I too often wanted to say snide comments about H and OW...I actually never did fall prey to that. I would ask when we were having serious conversations if presents were bought, but I actually never did say anything snide. It would be unproductive, because I am sure she does not ask what he buys me. I was disappointed on Friday when I came home and H left a valentine card and candy for our daughter. I really thought he would buy a card, especially since we had the talk we did that morning and him telling me he loved me...Whatever, that was to make himself feel better before going off to cheat I guess.
Fight your urges to make comments. They dont help. It just validates their feelings about your R... It sucks that you have to walk on eggshells and act according to H's moood, but right now it is the only way to get through it.
