quote: ----------------- Your above comments are exactly why I origianly said "let's not jump to conclusions" when Nopkins expressed his thought that your h IS likely involved with someone now. -----------------
So that everyone can be 'right', I will tell you why I 'assume' the worst.
I don't want to be "right" I just want to be helpful
I assume the worst because it provides ME a base to provide my limited amateur counsel from. In the case of a relationship where there has been multiple unresolved affairs, the likelihood of an ongoing affair is quite high. This is statistically factual.
No argument from me there
Repairing a relationship with a partner that is currently in an affair, or has recently ended an affair, or has multiple unresolved issues with affairs is very difficult, as you well know from your own situation.
Yes, I do understand from my own sit and perhaps that is why I don't wish to lead anyone else into believing something that may be untrue...let's not forget that though we are real people here we are just words on a computer screen...we don't know how another person is going to react to our assumptions...what if soley based on your stating that in your opinion a persons partner is involved in an A results in extra undue stress, turmoil etc?
MY approach, in dealing with this kind of situation, is to assume continuation of an affair. The principles used in that construct seem best suited to resolve issues in the aforementioned situation.
I suggest that we bury our difference of opinion on approach to aid, and see if we can help this fine person deal with her situation.
I have no problem with your opinion I was just offering another one (the possibility that there is no op at this time)
