Quote: LL wrote: --------------- it would be natural to assume "someone else" but let's not jump to conclusions...it is after all possible that there is not currently another person but perhaps he has engulfed himself in other things. ---------------
I wasn't jumping to conclusions. Her husband has cheated before, possibly multiple times. Therefore, he is very likely to do it again.
Yes his track record doesn't prove to be promising BUT there is always the possibility that another person isn't the problem right now.
My reading recommendations were geared to help provide Hope with some enforceable boundaries, and equip her with the resources to address the shortcomings in her marriage, including the lack of sex.
and that's an excellent idea
I don't see where you would think that my logic and reasoning was flawed, LL. If you see something that I missed, I would appreciate you telling me what it was.
the only thing I can see that you may have missed is the fact that you (or I for that matter) don't personally know hope or her h and sometimes all it takes is another party speculating (even if justifiably so) a third parties involvement to make things worse instead of better. Now Hope may (or may not be) in a state of denial regarding her h's current level of fidelity but I never feel it's a good idea to make that assumption unless there is concrete evidence suggesting so. Why not? because as I mentioned it can be detrimental to the way in wich the party seeking "help" handles things (having read great books on how to deal with it or not) it can become the equivelant of "well meaning friends and family" as mentioned in Michelles divorce busting/remedy books.
