Hope wrote: -------------- Actually, marriage just doesn't seem to suit his personality. I think he'd do well to have a new woman in his life every two to three years. Yikes! Is there really much I can do to meet this "need"? --------------
Of course there are ways to meet his needs. I am sure that there are people out there that 'need' extramarital relationships, but that would be a character issue better suited to divorce lawyers and psychiatrists.
It sounds like your husband is a 'thrill seeker'. He likes to 'conquer' a new woman every once in a while, and once he has 'won', he is ready to move on.
If that is the case, then loving distance is the very thing you must practice, and likely will be the hardest thing for you to do.
Once you have your husbands attention, I strongly suggest that you get him to read SSM, and get him to commit to some serious counseling. I am concerned that unless he addresses his issues, you will be left wanting yet again.
It sounds like you have a good grasp of the Dobson book. How have you done at implementing the principles outlined in the book?
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
