I am still wondering what he got from the other relationship(s) emotionally.
What is the emotional need(s) that the affairs met, and ultimately, what did he get from it? What was his attitude toward life (not you) during the affair(s)? Provide as much detail as possible.
What is his attitude toward life now, and what is his attitude toward you now?
Compare your answers to the times when you knew he was involved with another woman.
Quote: -------------- Basically, H chased me until we got engaged. Then once he had me, his interests turned elsewhere, career advancement, etc. --------------
As soon as you get Michele's books, pay particular attention to the section on 'doing a 180". In the mean time, if you are being grabby/needy/touchy/feely with your husband, stop. Add some loving distance. Not mean, "I won't talk to you" distance, but 'loving disinterest'. Spouses, especially men, will run from 'needy' spouses.
I am sorry that you are having to deal with this.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
