Stating the obvious, he is getting something, emotionally, from the other relationships that he is not getting from you. Do you know what that might be?
To start with, I suggest you get the following books and study them, cover to cover.
The Divorce Remedy by Michele,
The Sex Starved Marriage by Michele
Love Must be Tough by Dr. James Dobson.
Read the Dobson book first.
From what you have written, I suspect that he is at least emotionally involved with someone else. Dobson's book is going to tell you how to deal with your situation from a position of strength. Michele's books are going to address the day to day issues in you and your marriage. After you read Dobson's book, read the Divorce Remedy, then The Sex Starved Marriage.
For now, keep the books to yourself. Don't share them with your husband. Try not to let him know you are reading them.
In the mean time, please fill us in on details regarding your relationship. A history of sorts.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
