I'm sorry to hear that she has started pulling away again. Is it possible that she's putting attention into the kids and not you, and that is what you are feeling? I hope that makes sense.
I know that in my M, there were often times when other things in my life (like kids, career, education, etc...) consumed most of my thoughts. My ex wasn't always the first one on my mind, and he didn't always know what was going through my head.
Although looking back I think he should have been a higher priority more often - lessons learned.
Sometimes we get so caught up in the day-to-day stuff, that we don't take enough time to appreciate each other.
Aside from the kids returning, has anything else been happening in her life? Just wondering what would trigger the change.
Also, what did you mean by seeing the writing on the wall now that your D has moved back for the semester? Is that a separate thing from feeling her pull away? I wasn't sure what you meant there, or if it was just the way you worded it.
I'm sure some other bright person (aka Ellie or Z) will be by to offer their input and ask their own questions too.
We're here if you want to talk. Okay?
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
