Thanks for your reply, OG_Lou. Lots of wonderful book suggestions. We're not anywhere close to divorce. I'm familiar with 5 love languages, sex-starved marriage. Not a fan of Dr. Laura. Not a fan of books that try to make all men alike and all women alike, not my experience with reality.
We are experiencing some sexual malaise. We're trying to figure out what to do about it. We are a good team otherwise. I don't just love my SO. I really like him. Have 4 children, two sets of twins (We're both twins ourselves. We were still surprised when they told us we were having twins. Second set was not such a surprise.) First two are 12 and second two are 7. Changes in sex life can probably be traced to the birth of the first set. The thought of a good night's sleep was more orgasmic for both of us than sex.
We run a business together. Maybe we see too much of each other. Most of our time seems to be taken up with business, children, running a household. We both recognize the need for some fun time just together. Haven't pulled it off yet. No affairs. No trauma beyond what is dealt most people.
