okay so H and I talked again last night and I think it was the first productive talk we have had in years. We were actually listening to each other. I tried to explain to him how my sexuality was directly into how I felt about our relationship. I apoligized for ignoring his needs and pretending that mine had any more importance than his. It was really the first time that we had spoken about our R where we didn't end up yelling at one another.
So, we have decided to set a small goal right now. We are going to set aside one night a month to go out together alone. I know it doesn't seem like a lot but it is what we feel right now we had actually achieve (part of our problem before was setting goals we just couldn't make then giving up). So, tomorrow night we are going to dinner alone....at a restaurant that doesn't have a "kids eat free" policy. We are going to start simple and see what happens.
