Quote: When I ask him why he married me he says because I was fun and we had sex a lot, he never says because he fell in love with me.
And: That makes me sad to think that the only reason H was treating me so well was so he could get sex. It had nothing to do with me and who I was or am for that matter. It all has to do with a physical drive. It makes me feel like a piece of meat. That unless I "put out" I'm not worth the effort. ------------------
ccc, Don't take that as a personal affront. For many HDM, the way to their heart is through sex. IOW, the only way they feel loved is by their sexual interaction. Having sex regularly makes their partner special to them and their love for the partner grows.
Perhaps you feel loved when your H helps you around the house or by giving you a gift. It doesn't mean you don't love him unless he does, just that you FEEL loved by him doing so. And aren't you willing to please him so that he'll "help" you or "gift" you? He's not just a piece of meat that's only good for "helping" or "giving". It's just learning to communicate in the special way that makes each of us feel loved.
