CeMar,

If H wants to be desired by me why then does he not put the effort into making that happen? He wants me to want him but he doesn't want to do anything to change the situation? It doesn't make sense. If he were single again, wouldn't he have to make an effort to meet someone new and start a sexual relationship with them? Why not devote energy into our sexual relationship one in which we have at least a base to start from?