It sounds to me that perhaps your H doesn't really understand that what he used to do (those little things) do actually meet a viable "need" of yours. Every single one of us has individual needs and those needs are probably not identicle to the ones our chosen SO has. The trick is getting them to understand our "needs" as a requirement they need to fulfill in order to let us know we are loved/wanted.
What would you say his fundamental needs are? They may not be obvious to you...so put some thought into it. Perhaps he's even told you what his are. How well do you feel he thinks you fulfill those needs? Chances are if he doesn't feel fulfilled he's stopped trying to fulfill your needs too. It's a vicious cycle.
