Quote: And that is why I am between a rock and a hard place. If I try to explain what is turning me off then I get blamed for manipulating him. But if I don't explain how I am feeling then nothing gets better.
I guess it would suck to be LD. IHJ once told me I was lucky that I was never LD. Maybe that's true but it limits my ability to understand my H's point of view. There are many men to whom I am not attracted. I've had the experience of not being attracted to a man and then becoming more attracted, but I've never had the opposite experience. Sometimes my H doesn't look so generally "hot" to me but I can and do easily get over that feeling by just thinking about the particular things about him that do turn me on. I think a lot of HD people are this way. For instance, Hairdog wrote about how his wife has an unappealingly pendulous belly but he is still attracted to her pretty eyes and her breasts. Have you ever tried just thinking about a particular part of your H's anatomy that turns you on, like my personal favorite the bicep? Or maybe you could just think about some particular thing you'd really like to do sexually and then somehow work your H into the fantasy.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
