So is he telling you you aren't sexy to him? Is he wanting YOU to turn him on? (Of course, now I'm asking you what HE's thinking...DUH!) It just sounds like you both want each other to be different or rather the same as before. It's common ground to be on. Not great common ground to be on, but at least something you can talk about. Talk about how you've both changed. It's an intimate conversation. Might lead to desire for physical intimacy. (I'm going to go take my own advice now. )
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