And that is why I am between a rock and a hard place. If I try to explain what is turning me off then I get blamed for manipulating him. But if I don't explain how I am feeling then nothing gets better.

BUT, H gets to say what he wants to me and I am supposed to accept it. Last night he told me that he wants his "sexy wife" back. His definition of sexy is wearing mini skirts and tight shirts and no underwear . I am trying to age gracefully. I am also raising two daughters that I am trying to instill a strong sense of self. My teeny-tiny miniskirt days are over BUT I still think I am sexy anyways AND I bet there are a lot of men out there that would see me as very attractive the way I am.

Maybe he thinks that because I am not interested in sex with him, I am not interested in sex at all. Maybe I'm not as LD as I thought?