I'm sorry if I sounded a bit harsh in my previous post. I'm a HD spouse but I really do want to help you by sharing my point of view. Here's what I'm trying to convey- Maybe your H really is sexually unattractive for a variety of reasons, maybe he says cruel things, or forgets to buy flowers, or leaves the toilet seat up or put on 20 lbs. or neglects to brush his teeth etc. OTH, maybe your expectations are too high. What would your reaction be if your H said something like "I refuse to continue in a sex deprived relationship. There are plenty of women who would be happy to be sexually involved with a guy like me.". Would you think "No that's not true. Most women would not be sexually attracted to you for reasons x,y and z." or would you be kind of frightened and think " That's probably true. I better try and figure out why I'm not attracted to a handsome Prince Charming like you or I might find you've moved on to another princess.". Probably the truth lies somewhere in between. Communication is the key. You need to let your H know about the x,y and z reasonable reasons you might find him unattractive and you need to work on dealing with any unreasonable expectations you might have regarding your H and sex in general.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
