Have you ever enjoyed sex just for the sake of sex or have you always "used" sex as a means to achieve a feeling of "importance" in a relationship? Do you feel like you are "important" as an individual outside of any relationship? I think one of the trickiest things all of us on the BB are trying to figure out is where to draw the line between what you need to do for yourself in terms of developing self-esteem and what you should be able to fairly expect from your relationship in that regard. What is happening in your sexual fantasy life that isn't happening in your relationship? Do you think your H should enjoy having sex with you if you don't enjoy having sex with him?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
