This has turned into quite the interesting topic....

Barney, by enthusiasm, do you mean "alive?"

My XH was always complaining about "not getting enough." I said...."just let me know, I can't read your mind." His response....."well, I touched your shoulder." Duh, so did about 20 other people throughout the day!!!! Guess I was too obtuse to recognize that I was so desirable to so many people.

Like Mulligan said....Communication is the key.