Thanks guys, I have to admit, it is very disconcerting to be accused of rape. I've asked this opinion before of close male friends and I've NEVER had anyone of them tell me they would view it as abusive and certainly the word rape has never come up.
My sense of humor clearly shows through in my technique and it can be a bit self-depricating. I guess what I was attempting to do is make fun of the situation and, in turn, end up having a little fun.
honeypot, he never ignored me, he always laughed and giggled and showed up on Saturday night. Now, this might have happened 4 times a year. It wasn't something I said every Wednesday night to the man and no one could have been more surprised than me when, after years of a little Saturday night fun I was accused of abuse. I continued to use this little, playful way of initiating because he responded to it in a positive way.
I can't be held responsible for the fact that he ignored his own feelings in preference to mine....4 times a year
I think, in the long run it was just used as justification for him leaving the marriage and once I got over the shock of him saying it was abuse I felt good that that was the worst example of abuse he could come up with.
I guess, somewhere inside there is still some sensitivity to the accusation cause when this person wrote what he did I became faint. I quite literally felt light headed at being accused of such a thing. Maybe some wounds never heal huh? I just have to learn to deal better when they are brought to the surface. Thanks ya'll!!
