During my marriage I used to have to come up with creative ways to initiate sex. It kind of helped my pride to be creative instead of just coming out and saying, "hey will you please screw me?
I used to say to my ex, at times..."hey big boy, I'm getting laid Saturday night, you are welcome to be there if you would like." Usually did it in my best May West voice. I thought it was cute, it saved face for me because it kept the begging to a minimum and I thought the man knew me well enough to know he was the only person I was interested in having sex with on Saturday night or any other night.
When he left he accused me of verbal abuse and used that statement as an example of abuse. I have been told today on the board by a man that it was abusive and my true intent was to force him to have sex when he didn't want to and it is an example of spousal rape. OUCH!!
What I want to know is this...if your wife came up to you and said those exact words to you would you feel abused or would you feel she was threatening to find someone else if you didn't show for the Saturday romp or would you view it as a cute, playful way for your wife to initiate sex?
