I'm sorry to hear you say things like that, it's got to be very painful. It sounds to me that he's not really a participant in a "marriage".
Have you answered the question to yourself yet of how long will you live this way? I'm not an advocate of divorce, although I have been divorced, but there are those people who don't really take you seriously or begin to listen for real until you do something drastic...such as a separation and moving out.
Now before I get slammed by other people....this doesn't work for everyone, I'm just saying that there are situations where this is necessary. This was the case with my ex. He really didn't think I seriously meant I couldn't live with a alcoholic...the day he took his last drink was the day I moved out.
Unfortunately we went straight to divorce, rather than a separation...otherwise we might still be together today. But at the time I was far too angry, I just couldn't see that I would ever get over that anger, which I did when I realized he seriously had straightened up. Fortunately we are now friends, and we didn't have children.
This is just something for you to think about...and also for you to know we're all here for you.
