Funny about the ILY thing from MIL. Mine always says it to me at the end of every call, for years now. I can always tell when she is pissed at us/me for somthing cause she won't say it even if I say it first (sheesh, now i know where H got it from! ). One of the tougher things I am gonna have a hard time with is losing contact with MIL/SIL. I used to talk to my MIL at least 4 times a week, SIL once a month. They have assured me they still want me as family, and i always feel so supported and loved by them when i do talk to them. ut H is their blood, and I know it won't always be this way. Especially if he remarries. My SIL will proabably stay closer to me than MIL, cause SIL has seen H always getting what he wants all his life and being a brat, and always come out smelling like a rose. She did tell me that she and MIL KNOW that H tried to make me the bad guy so he could leave,and that made me feel so much better. They know how he can be, so that helps too.
My relationship with my Mom and Dad (dad is gone now) was pretty dysfunctioal ,so H's family was like "leave it to Beaver" normal for me. It was nice. But there must be some issues there, cause I see the dynamic between H and his siter and his Mom (his dad is gone as well).

I thinks its great that your H is FINALLY giving you crdit for all the nuturing you did. While it may not be part of the love language he wants, its nice that he does appreciate your efforts. i am hoping that my h will find that I also did do alot for him, and he will miss that.