Yeah, I remember giving the same advice to BeingMe and everyone else who was struggling once achieving piecing. I guess it's the normal way the things go. I really do want it to happen (working out) and I'm really seeing how much effort my H is putting into it as well. Just last night in bed he grabbed my hand and said "thank you". When I asked for what, he listed all the things I did for him and also the fact that I'm "so wonderful" and for "being me". It was so sweet, he used to take for granted all the "nurturing" things I did for him because that is not how he needed to feel loved. Now he is ascknowledging all of those little things and admitting that they make up quite a bit of the M.
One thing I forgot to mention - I spoke with MIL last Friday - her aunt passed away and my H was talking to her. She wanted to talk to me (I was hoping I could avoid if for a while until I get more comfortable with her again) and I had hard time covering up the resentment I still feel towards her (the whole request for the OW picture story) and I noticed myself that I came across very cold. She told me that she loves me and she always did and they she told everyone that she loved me. She must have sensed that I'm not comfortable saying it back to her because there was no usual "love you" at the end, I just passed the phone back to my H only saying "stay well". Last night he spoke with her again and was sitting right next to me when I heard her say (it was loud) to my H to have him tell me that she loves me. When he asked her if she wanted to do it herself she must have said something to him about my current attitude because he ended up saying it to me for her but adding that MIL wanted to MAKE SURE that he will tell me that (that she said she loved me)
