Like yourself Crushed, most of us fear the work. Before you were in survival mode, now your in clean up mode. The fight of survival mode is intense, clean up is just plain work. As most of us know clean-up is a daily thing. We got where we started here because of some work that did not occur. Now we can either work with our spouse and potentially have something worthwhile or give up and clean up the leftovers for the rest of our life (no joy).
Well that's my feeling on the matter right now. That's what I have to tell myself day in and day out. Right now I am in the waiting to come around the bend mode. She hasn't left, probably won't, but is very reluctantly putting any effort into serious personal change. Limbo-land. If only we had survalience cams, I could use some coaching most of the time. A little pep talk once in awhile too. Kind of like on Letterman.
