Fortunately there are no nude pictures of OW on H's computer (everything fully clothed and posed - she is such a little prancy thing!) so that's one less thing to boil my blood.

I agree, I need to stop snooping all together and work on my trust issues as well as security. My H told me that he has nothing to gain by leading me on and doing his thing on the side - he really is sincere about working on M full pledge. He keeps telling me how excited he feels about me, something that he admits disappeared the moment I moved in with him over 5 years ago. He is giddy and happy, we both act, look, and feel better since the past weekend.

Thank you for all the advice and encouragement. I will be posting about how things are and hopefully someone else can learn from my story. Please be honest and if you see me slipping (I am too close to the forest to see the trees at times) flag me right away- I don't want to loose what I'm rebuilding.

I have read MF's posts and was very inspired earlier on. I'm sad that the things turned for worse (actually bad) and I'm praying for her. I will be checking out Hope's threads now, I will also invest in books that deal with life after affair.