Quote: but under NO circumstances do I believe that you have a WIFE any longer. She is willing to be a roommate, a coparent, a beloved companion, but not a wife.
Suppose she were physically disabled and unable to have sex. Would she still be a wife? I think so. I would object if my wife had our kind of intimate relationship with another man, it's too close for just friends.
Quote: Cutting all sexual ties and declaring that she is lesbian has effectively ended the marriage.
If I use the words 'wife' and 'marriage' the way you are using them, I can only come to your conclusion. If I use these words the way I use them, I can only come to my conclusion.
Quote: I think that one has to aspire to being a wife before they can legitimately say that they are part of a marriage, don't you think?
We're working hard on what our expectations are for the marriage. At first, I wondered if we should give up on monogamy, but we soon realized how we both felt about the idea of the other having an affair. She asked whether it would be easier for me to deal with things if she moved to a separate bedroom. No, I need her close, I need that close cuddling every night when we talk about our days. Will we ever have sex? I don't know, and that's going to be a really, really hard issue for me.
Quote: I don't think your wife has one iota of malice towards you and I'm sure she loves you deeply in a nonromantic way. I'm also sure she had no idea about this when she married you. It is so very sad and unfortunate all the way around.
Yes, every sentence here is true.
Quote: I wish you luck with your chosen path.
Thank-you. I have no illusions that it's going to be easy.
