Quote: That commitment appears to be asymmetric. Does your wife care about your feelings as much as you care about hers?
Yes, I think she does. Surely this should be measured in terms of the whole relationship, not just in terms of sex. And really, I can't imagine a better wife for me, except in the sex department.
Quote: From where I am sitting, your marriage has a big hole in the middle of it - one which there is no hope of filling.
Looks like that where I'm sitting too. I suppose most marriages have a big hole in some area.
Quote: I can't help thinking that both you and your wife will find more complete love with other partners with whom you might respectively find mutual attraction.
Maybe, but in some ways, the love that my wife and I have shared most of our adult life, despite very difficult obstacles, and continue to share now - that love is complete in a way that a new love would not be.
Quote: Your marrige is not mutual, and your wife has slammed the door on that possibility.
It's certainly not mutual in the romantic and sexual attraction department. If love is measured in friendship, caring, and intimacy, then her love is just as strong as mine.
It would be a lot easier to divorce and find a woman who is wild about me romantically and sexually. I know that.
