I was mistaken in saying she was holding you hostage, since you are obviously there of your own volition and so is she, but under NO circumstances do I believe that you have a WIFE any longer. She is willing to be a roommate, a coparent, a beloved companion, but not a wife. Cutting all sexual ties and declaring that she is lesbian has effectively ended the marriage. I think that one has to aspire to being a wife before they can legitimately say that they are part of a marriage, don't you think?
I'm not trying to be harsh, only to speak what appears to be the truth from my perspective. I don't think your wife has one iota of malice towards you and I'm sure she loves you deeply in a nonromantic way. I'm also sure she had no idea about this when she married you. It is so very sad and unfortunate all the way around.
