Jonathan:

Good luck man. Is your wife affectionate? I have the double whammy, littles sex and virtually no affection, they seem to go hand-in-hand. Does your wife fill your love tank in other ways? That can sometimes help. My wife NEVER adds to my love tank. I am running on empty.

You mention other things that are important in life. I agree they are all important. It just depends on which ones are MOST important to you.