Insufficient data. Neither of us ever really dated before we met each other. In circa 1993, when I had those two brief affairs, I felt for the first time what it meant to have a woman wildly turned on by my body. That's never happened with my wife.
Quote: I am wondering about your choice of the word aversion. That is such a strong word.
Her word, not mine. It feels like someone just kicked me in the stomach when I hear that word.
Quote: I think about the commercials for fear factor and those people eating yucky things. I have an aversion to tobacco smoke, it makes me cough, sneeze, and feel so nauseated. I will get up and move if a smoker sits next to me. So, is this what you mean when you say she has an aversion to sex with you?
I don't know - she's afraid of telling me this in too much detail, because she can feel how much it hurts me. And talking openly about this is really, really new for us.
Quote: It sounds as if you made peace with this years and years ago. At least have agreed that living with your best friend is what you want. You sound content and in love.
That's partly because it's true, and partly because I'm telling the part of the truth that the rest of y'all aren't telling. If nobody were representing the fact that sexlessness is tough, I would be. And I might mention that I have chronic migraines and just long to be ... well, you get the idea.
I haven't really made my peace with sexlessness, but I'm sure about wanting my wife. That kind of makes the sexless decision for me.
