Quote: I guess I don't see that she's doing that. It may be the easiest piece to verbalize, or the revelation that opened her eyes, but I don't get the feeling that she's so simplistic in her thinking.
You're right. My wife is very richly textured, subtle, and educated. Maybe I'm not communicating this very well, it's not easy to describe her journey.
Quote: This may not be true for everyone, but for me, being a lesbian means wanting to be with a woman. For Jonathan's sake, I'm worried that's where W's evolution will lead her.
I keep reading about "lesbian bed death", where the sex slowly stops, but the relationship carries on with intensity. That intense relationship seems to be more important than the sex. am I getting this right?
Quote: I don't agree that she's holding his sexuality hostage any more than he is holding hers. Everybody is an adult and has to make their own choices. It pains me to think how difficult those choices are.
And as long as we are married, at least with our current understanding, we're holding each other hostage.
Quote: I do agree with everything else you say, especially in wishing them the best.
