Quote: What is your wife willing to do for YOU? She has now unilaterally forced you into a sexless marriage. Is she okay with that?
We've been mostly sexless for 21 years now, and it's always been tough. We talk about this, she's aware of the pain, she's caring and listens well when we discuss this, but she also has a strong aversion.
Quote: Does she have any plans to 'help' you out from time to time? How can she, if she truly loves you as you say she does, live with herself if that is her plan?
Well, this new revelation is less than two weeks old (three for her). This may explain a lot of our sexual problems. But we're both still adjusting to the idea, and there's a lot to deal with. I do think I have to give her time. And right now she needs space and patience.
Quote: I get what you're saying about the headache and all, but IRL if you did have a headache, you'd probably reach for the bottle of aspirin.
You know what I like about aspirin? It's morally neutral, you don't get entangled with it or fall in love with it. It doesn't destroy your relationships.
Quote: As far as women checking out other women, my vote would be that they do it simply because women are beautiful.
No argument there ;->
Quote: Again, Jon, I don't think that her being aroused by women makes her a lesbian. Can you broach that convo with her and see what comes of it?
Not really, not without presuming to be an expert on who is and who is not a lesbian, pretending to know more about how she processes the world than she does. And not without defining terms - 'lesbian' is actually a very, very vague term when you think about it.
