Quote: sexual orientation has less to do with who you can enjoy having sex with and more to do with who you can "fall in love" with.
This got me thinking about the different gender choices we make in the course of our lives. I go to a femle ob/gyn and a female hair stylist. I like to be "cared for" by females. If I needed a lawyer, I would more than likely choose a male. When my H and I did MC, I was thinking that I'd rather go to a woman but I felt my H would do better with a man. We're making sex oriented decisions every day.
I am heterosexual because I tend to fall for men who are taller than me and have strong chests---I somehow have bought into the " tall, dark and handsome" thing. It's easier for me to go this route and I really don't know how much is mental vs. biological. This is really superficial thinking and not what love is all about.
Being the romantic that I am, my hope is that Jonathan and his W are able to create a sex life based on their deep love for each other. It sounds like she has been trying to figure out what turns her on and pictures of women seem to do it for her. I really wouldn't call that an orientation, and sometimes what is forbidden is what we desire.
I really feel for all of us in long term relationships...the superficial, easy attraction is gone and we have to reach deeper to get to those feelings. Meanwhile our bodies are aging and life stresses take their toll. Add to that resentments and anger over past issues and it's amazing anyone has a decent sex life.
