That is a *very* useful group, I've been in it for a week now, and it's been the best source of wisdom that I've found so far.
Quote: I think there are a lot of other sites both on lesbian sites and something called straightspouses.
My wife found a useful mailing list for lesbians married to straight men.
Quote: Unlike our very, very wise friend, StubbornDyke, I am bisexual and so cannot imagine (I have tried) having feelings exclusively for one sex.
She does have a lot of wisdom. I'm afraid I'm as straight as they come. I once trained in massage (got about half way through the training), and I'm perfectly comfortable with men touching me, hugging men, being naked together with men, etc., but there's nothing sexual about it. Now women ... are a different story. When StubbornDyke asked me to imagine dating or living with a man, I guess I could relate to the bit about being an oddball, I just can't understand why anybody would be interested in having sex with a guy. That's one of the things my wife and I seem to have in common.
Quote: I hear a lot of love in your writing. Lots of concern for her feelings and her struggles. Some relationships...The Course In Miracles would call them holy relationships, transend the physical.
She also has a lot of caring and concern for me.
I just wish I weren't always feeling like I'm going to explode. Sexlessness leaves me moody and pensive. But if the rest of our relationship is strong - our emotional closeness, our cuddling, the pragmatics of our family, our support for each other and faithfulness to each other - we can survive a big knock in one area of our relationship.
I seriously considered taking SSRIs to deaden my sex drive. But I'm not ready for that ... it feels like a frontal lobotomy. Hmmm...and it would be frontal, wouldn't it?
