Quote: I wish you all the best. In the end, this isn't really about sex.
Can you say more about this? It seems to have something to do with identity too, but I'm pretty dense here. Is there something in particular I should read?
Your nickname implies that you may also be a lesbian - are you in lesbian relationship? are you in a relationship with a male? I'm just asking to what extent you've been on the other side of this - and if it's too personal, just don't answer.
Quote: Still, it might help you to connect over your shared attraction to women.
We've done that some...
Quote: And even if W isn't immediately receptive, it might help for you to learn to make love like a woman. Ask W to talk about what she imagines it (your whole R, not just sex) would be like if you were a woman (mind you, I only advocate hypothetical sex changes). That might give you some clues about what you can do to better satisfy her.
Can you say more? If you were my wife, and I were to ask you this question, what would you say? It's only been 10 days for us, and I'm not sure that I can ask her this question right now (she's wanting me to back off on the "will we ever have sex again" question and let her work on some things with her therapist first).
