I wish you all the best. In the end, this isn't really about sex. Still, it might help you to connect over your shared attraction to women. And even if W isn't immediately receptive, it might help for you to learn to make love like a woman. Ask W to talk about what she imagines it (your whole R, not just sex) would be like if you were a woman (mind you, I only advocate hypothetical sex changes). That might give you some clues about what you can do to better satisfy her.
