Oh, I thought you when you said she was clearly closed to the possibility of a sex now or in the future, she was dismissing your needs. If she is open to talking, listening. loving, that is different. Never is a long time.

I am not sure I understand how having sex about every leap year is seen as pressure by her? Was this always her stance?

I understand that this is hard for you. I understand ( trust me, I do) that it may be a confusing time for her. When you say "coming out" do you mean to you...or to herself?

And I understand lots of couples live happily in relationships without sex.

I was not trying to sound that harsh. I guess the whole...not now or ever thing sounded so dismissive.




Arguing with reality is like trying to teach a cat to bark—hopeless. (Byron Katie)